I'm still on my quest to determine "What makes a Man" and "What makes a Woman" aside from the physical.
One thing I discovered was the topic of friendship.
Men approach making friends as though you have to earn friendship. Particularly when friendshipping with someone they are attracted to, they will place priority on determining if they are friendship quality, and if not they proceed to determine if that person is 'sex' quality.
In other words, men are comfortable sleeping around and not forming real friendships, but if the candidate is friendship quality, then they will build a friendship that (if romantically stable) will include sexual components.
Women, on the other hand, tend to do the opposite. They gauge whether the other person is sex-quality material and if not they proceed with building a friendship with that person.
Women are comfortable making friends with everyone and not having sex, but if the candidate is sex quality then they might just build a friendship with the sex.
Think of it this way:
Women hold sex as more valuable
Men hold friendship as more valuable
When men give friendship, it's more valuable than sex
When women give sex, it's more valuable than friendship
One can assume that this comes from the deep rooted risk factors for the genders, --I.e. cavewomen who have sex and get pregnant it is a greater risk. caveMen who develop friendships and enter dangerous situations with those friends, it is a greater risk.
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