PART 2: Other Valuables that come with Love

I hope you didn't think I would leave Love to its simple fate and dismiss it!

I actually think there is a lot of value in the other things that we call Love--Just I think we need to expand our use of language about these things and focus on the right things.

--Thanks for being a loyal reader, let me do some of the heavy lifting and explain away these other things that poets and philosophers call love:

1- Pure Love - A permanent, caring interest in another person's life and their success.
2- Equality - Treating another person as an equal, or the belief that one's self is another's equal.
3- Emotions - Positive emotions triggered by another that motivate someone to shape their own life.
*4- Selflessness - Motivation to put another person ahead of one's self.
*5- Connection- [Two parts:] Mental - Curious desire to understand and learn more about another. Emotional - Curious desire to experience things with another person.
*6- Passion & Lust - Desire to live through a fantasy with another person.


Explanation:

1- I've already touched on pure love. --This is what I think we should call "love" because when you take everything else away, this is what you are left with is the sincere interest in the other person. The rest of these associations with love often come along with this kind of love.

2- Some people are attracted to the feelings associated with being an equal with another person. We like to be around equals because it enforces our beliefs, values, and lifestyle (our choices). When we feel we have found someone who is our equal on some level, we are attached to having them around us and we start to feed off of them.

3- Any relationship will trigger emotions; but when the majority of the emotions that another person triggers in us are appealing to us, we start to desire to have that person around more often. When excitement is triggered in us, it means that our subconscious is expecting something positive to happen and for us to be prepared for it. When desire is triggered, our subconscious is urging us to reach out and strive for the thing we desire.


The latter three associations people make with love, in my opinion, are branches from the original three.

4- Selflessness comes about after we possess a caring interest in another person and want them to succeed. We put ourselves on the line because we want the other person to live on and to reach what they are searching for, whether it's happiness or some other success.

5- Connection comes from desiring to be an equal with someone else. --Let me be clear, there is no way you can really be an equal with another person--we're too different and we are shaped differently. The influence that someone has on you merely shapes you in a new direction, it doesn't replicate itself into you because you still have to interpret and internalize it for yourself.

6- Passion and Lust come from emotions you feel. Sometimes your conscious and subconscious dream up a fantasy between yourself and another person--often times this is physical, but it can apply to anything emotional or mental as well. Once you have a dream and you see the possibility of it coming true, then it starts to become a passion as you work for it. It becomes a lust when it occupies your mind a majority of the time or is capable of putting you out of your thoughts because it is so overwhelming.



Selflessness makes for a better world.
Connection makes for a better world.
Passion makes for a better world.

I'd say these are all GREAT things! Emotions are good, Equality is good, and love is good.

Keep love simple.
Start using the correct terms please--people will understand you better and they'll probably be more likely to give you what you want the more direct you are with them.


PART 3: Coming Soon!