So my roommates today tried to convince me that I am not intelligent because I thought Demetri Martin was actually pretty stupid. --for starters let's just point out that opinions aren't signs of intelligence. Sorry, but if that were the case then Donald Trump, Bill Gates, and Einstein, all of which are very opinionated people, would be stupid. So using that argument falls pretty flat.
In any case, I'll roll with this idea and argue why I think Demetri Martin is a fairly stupid individual. Let's take a look at his comedy style: It is NOT high comedy. It's not so much witty comedy as it is obvious comedy. All of his jokes are about obvious things that people should naturally know. Here are just a few:
"Some guy looked at me from a far away distance gave me a smile. He started running twords me, looked at me, and said, 'Sorry, I thought you were someone else.' I said, 'I am.' "
Let's break that down and analyze it: The humor comes from the obvious: demetri really is what the guy said. It's ironic humor. The audience laughs because they are led to believe throughout the whole joke that they are smart people and that this joke isn't going to be ironic and it's not going to "catch" them offguard. But when they get to the punch line they think: "I'm an idiot, of course this is true"
"My favorite fruit is grapes. Because with grapes, you always get another chance. 'Cause, you know, if you have a crappy apple or a peach, you're stuck with that crappy piece of fruit. But if you have a crappy grape, no problem - just move on to the next. 'Grapes: The Fruit of Hope.' "
Ok, where is the intelligence in that? He made a simple observation that when you buy grapes you eat a bunch of them at a time rather than just one sour apple. And what he failed to realize was that whole bunches (that means about a half barrel) can be bad grapes under certain conditions.
Finally (I'm doing this randomly but I figure I'd throw out 3):
"The digital camera is a great invention because it allows us to reminisce. Instantly. " This is a cleaver joke. Only people who understand that the world reminisce implies looking back after a long period of time, but does this prove that Demetri is intelligent?
He's a comedian. He gets paid to write (does he write his own jokes anymore?) jokes and tell them. I have several friends who are comedians and I find them very humorous most of the time. But the truth is, I don't think they are "intelligent".
Demetri was given a full ride scholarship to NYU law school. Do scholarships mean intelligence? --I know many people who have full ride scholarships. That means they fulfilled the requirements to the scholarship, not that they are intelligent. In fact, most scholarships presented by private enterprises (which is all of them) are designed to give people an education so that they will: A) be recruited by the capitalist or elite class because of their new understanding of life or B) because the foundation feels obligated to give someone an opportunity because they themselves were given that opportunity.
The rest of the story about demetri is that he dropped out of law school and had a mid life crisis (he's only 37 now).
With all that said, I also need to point out that Demetri's comedy is solely designed to make the audience feel stupid, feel awkward about being stupid, and laugh out of embarrassment. People who would find that humorous are people who have an ego and think they are smart yet get fooled by the obvious things. I thought it was completely stupid, not because I somehow "got" all of the jokes, but because that's not my style of comedy. I like situational comedy that can only be enacted. Stories help, sure, but they aren't stories about being witty, they're stories about life that I enjoy and make me laugh. Things like saying "it can't get any worse" then to have it REALLY rain and get worse.
My comment about Demetri (after my roommate brought him up) was simply: "what has he done with his life?"
My other roommate jumped in to say "What have YOU done with YOUR life?"
I have done things with my life. More things than anyone in that room had ever done. I didn't really have a response to them because I recognized that it was just one of those situations where people let their own egos control them (both of my roommates are pretty arrogant and I often have to just let it blow right past me because I think they're ridiculous when they act that way, but of course I don't say anything)
I'll write a simple answer to that question on here:
What have I done with my life?
I have served an LDS mission. I have graduated High school, entered college, my GPA is doing fine (it's only a 3.15 but that's better than most people and it's what I want to be at anyway) I've successfully started up a relationship coaching business and I'm nearly finished with a book related to it. and I've started into a film making career (which is better than quite a lot of people). I turn 22 in June. I'm usually the youngest person in any group of individuals I work with. I know it's not a lot, but considering I am always working towards goals, I'm always progressing, and I'm always happy with my life, I'd say I've accomplished the main goal I want to have in life: Remain Optimistic and Happy with the way things turn out.
I have no regrets about my life, and most of the problems that people my age have and see as their biggest problems, are not problems in my own. I don't know how that worked out but somehow relationship problems, not knowing what I want to do with life, and not knowing how to be happy are all things I'm actually quite skilled at.
I DO things with my life; a day doesn't go by that I wouldn't be able to say I am DOING something, whether it's film, or relationship coaching, or marketing, or having a relationship, or church. I DO things. Need I prove that one too?
May I suggest reading John Gottman, 7 Principle for Making Marriage Work. It's an excellent book and it even includes exercises couples can do together.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a big fan of "exercises" because I think when people have an understanding of the situation they don't really need practice, they just need to do it.
ReplyDeleteIt has always seemed to me that people have a harder time making decisions than they do actually performing. I'll look into the book though, thanks!